INTJ Compatibility with Other Types

Opinions vary on what types INTJs are most compatible with. Some people gravitate toward individuals with the same personality because they believe they connect with them better and others believe choosing a partner with opposite preferences will balance them. If you’re interested in other people’s experiences, the table below links to discussion threads on INTJ Forum about compatibility between INTJs and every other type.

 

INTJs and the SJs (Guardians) INTJs and the SP (Artists)
intj and esfj intj and esfp
intj and estj intj and estp
intj and istj intj and isfp
intj and isfj intj and istp
INTJs and the NFs (Idealists) INTJs and the NT (Rationals)
intj and enfj intj and entj
intj and enfp intj and entp
intj and infj intj and intj
intj and infp intj and intp

45 thoughts on “INTJ Compatibility with Other Types

  1. I’ve noticed the INTJs on this site have slightly poorer grammatical acumen that I’d have expected. It’s clearly a product of the normal distribution, but let’s represent accordingly.
    Scott

      1. I too have noticed with chagrin the grammatical failings of this website. Based on the humble assertion that we (INTJs) are smart, shouldn’t the author of such a claim also know that when periods, exclamation points, etc. are within a quotation and at the end of a sentence, the period goes IN the quotation marks?

        Example:

        WRONG:
        She told me that “she was smarter than everyone else”.

        RIGHT:
        She told me that “she was smarter than everyone else.”

        BOOM.

        1. Actually, your sentences with quotation marks are grammaticaly correct to US conventions. The period outside the quotes is conventional to the UK; however, I grew up in the Southeastern US and I learned the UK conventions. I do not put the period or punctuation inside of a quote when the quote is not a complete thought or a complete quote. I just wanted to clarify that your examples are not the only grammatical method. It’s a difference of color and colour.

    1. I can’t say I agree. I’ve met quite a few INTJ personalities online, and with the exception of one, they’ve all had stellar grammar and spelling abilities. I constantly experience people saying they feel like I’m being excessively formal when communicating with them, but that’s just the result of my schooling and education. I can’t help but perform my interpersonal communication in the manner that I was taught.

      Are you absolutely sure that the individuals that you’re basing your statement on are actually INTJs? Or are they instead people who really want to be an INTJ? I know several people who attempt to portray themselves as some personality, but are nothing of the sort.

      Then I read your post more thoroughly and notice the “on this site”. My apologies for not reading your post with enough attention to detail. Carry on. ^^ (And yet I still reply with all of my previous statements intact, since just deleting it and moving on would be such a waste. Hahah)

      1. I guess I need to stand up and admit it. “Hi, I’m an intj and I am only mediocre at spelling and grammar.” While I excel at many things, I found English to be rather boring after my teacher spent the 10th time going over the same rules. I did what any sane man would do in my position; drafted the outlines to my solar death ray on the back of my notes. I ended up with the general rules but the specifics become a little fuzzy at times. I have been meaning to crack my old books back open and remedy this problem but I have been preoccupied with my mechanical studies. Have at me if you must

    2. Speaking as an INTJ, your thoughts amuse me. You have mocked our “grammatical acumen” whilst making multiple trivial grammatical mistakes in your post.

    1. “i” should be capitalized, *you’re, *stupid, improper use of “/” — it should instead be a “:” *I’m, *an, *and, *am, *good, *grammar

      Willard, that is a but of a hypocritical statement: you claim that you are “gud at gramer” when there are plenty of flaws in your comment. It would be wise for you to think before you post.

      I am, by the way, also an INTJ

      1. I’m pretty sure he was making a mockery of Scott…..a satirical-type thing. Most likely, it’s a joke intended to produce the reaction you exemplified, Jo. You fell into the INTJ trap.

        1. Haha, as soon as I read the “gud gramer” comment I was waiting for some overzealous, INTJ-elitist to fall into that huge, obvious hole Willard left! I’m an INTJ female too (yay for anomalies!) and I just want to point out that being one of us doesn’t mean we’re jackass know-it-alls and psyched about it. Most of us are very bright intellectually because we are curious about our complex world; external and internal. When we intentionally shut down our usual, Socratically-inspired, “I know that I don’t know” radar with “I’m smarter than you” (even if true) we lose out on a little bit of knowledge and THAT is most unacceptable to a true INTJ. In short, lighten up, Jo. :)

  2. Any ideas on what type of personality would be best to help mentor a INTJ other than another INTJ? And please provide a reason for your suggestion. Thanks.

  3. I know that your comment is three months old, but I laughed. Being anal about grammatical accuracy is something I’ve generally had to suppress, especially online. But you’re right, and considering who we are, we SHOULD be keeping ourselves to a tougher standard.

    1. Aw, HELL no! I object to social norms! Maybe a happy median? Like, “I quite enjoy deep discussions on quantum mechanics, daaawwwg.”

  4. Hi Hoang – I like your question, it has serious implications and could help an INTJ in need. It got me thinking.

    Most of my teachers over the years fell into the ‘I’m just doing my job’ category. But, the two or three who reached me did so in profound and memorable ways – ways that changed my path. Looking back, I have had an immediate and strong bond with what I think were ENTJs. We speak the same language. To be more precise, we think the same language. Perhaps more importantly, we respect the same ideals.

    The small group I’m referring to were generally extroverted, very charismatic, intelligent and logical, open to wildly new ideas and had no time for the mundane or repetitive minutia of the day-to-day. In all cases, their extroverted nature and natural ability to lead and draw people to them made them easy to find and personally inspiring. (“Finally, someone who’s not boring! Someone who challenges me!”) My own strengths as an INTJ let me into their circles, even when there were major age and/or social differences.

    They came from all walks of life:
    A young painter, an accomplished art & music appreciation teacher, a homeless guy on a rock who wrote for Encyclopedia Britannica.

  5. I’m an INTJ and english is my second language. Maybe my grammar isn’t perfect, but I’m trying to be better every day.

  6. I frankly don’t care about grammar, if you can interpret what i’m articulating, then, that is good enough for me, certainly proper grammar and being percise is important, but I expect that whom I am speaking to; to be able to interpret my mistakes and understand what I or whoever else is trying to say… because if you argue symantics with me, I question the level of intelligence of whom i’m debating/speaking with.

    1. Yesssss……. The thing is, we can’t help our instant visual text judgement calls…….. It kinda does ruin my “pretty picture” when the grammar’s all mucked up, almost making it unread-worthy. But then again, I’m not just and INTJ: I’m totally OCD.

      1. …and that error really bugs me now… go to your happy place, Dana, just breathe… “Om…” (I prefer the period INSIDE the q.m.’s. ;-)

  7. I have recently learned I am an INTJ. It’s so beyond interesting to me how almost precisely I fit into this type of personality. I too can be emotionally detached, use logic and reason, can be anal about grammar, think I’m always right, have an extremely formal and professional way of communicating with people, have very little tolerance for stupidity, ignorance, and immaturity. However, because of my logic, I have learned to be less strict in these areas for the sake of not losing my mind and not being a hermit. I am struggling in finding the right career path for me. I am 27 working as a paralegal, my boss is an extreme micro manager and I am questioning whether the legal field is even for me. I majored in pre-law in college but don’t see the logic in going to law school if I won’t enjoy being an attorney. However, I could pass the LSAT and pass the bar, just because that is what I would set my mind to should I choose to do it. Having recently learned so much about my personality type, I am wanting to extensively which would research the best career choice for me based on my personality type. So I am looking for suggestions. Thanks all! :)

    1. There are many areas of law, which can attract many different personality types–maye you haven’t found some area that appeals to your creativity. Have you thought of patent or copyright law, or law dealing with outer space, law of the sea, or media (= performance artist) law? I know a lawyer who could herself be an artist who reviews publishing contracts for writers– she feels protective of them as they are simultaneously intelligent yet naive and seem to be begging to be fleeced. Some have ridiculous egos, some have none. She seems to get a kick out of alternately protecting and lecturing these people on reality. She’s an odd bird, somewhat a cross between a maiden aunt and a gun-for hire — but likes her job and her clients; sometimes she even likes their books, so long as they are articulate and given to mushy romance.

      1. many hilarious typos above — I currently have carpal tunnel syndrome and miss keys: on second line, “maye” should read, “maybe.”
        The last line should have read, “. . and NOT given to mushy romance.”

  8. @Kell: I am an INTJ attorney. I loved law school; I had a blast taking the bar exam. I had great outcomes in my practice. However, the huge downside of law for INTJs is that, in most experiences, it’s a highly political, people-oriented activity. You may indeed be happier being the brains in the back room, while letting someone else deal with clients. Whether attorney or paralegal, make sure you are properly compensated.

    As for the rash of childish hubris on this list:

    Lolling about in the fantasy that you are brilliant just because you scored INTJ is (ironically) a tiresome emotional behavior. Indeed, there is no telling how many self-deluded chimpanzees score themselves as INTJ in the vain- glorious notion that it will prove they are brilliant.

    A true INTJ is not satisfied with where they are now; they are not satisfied to strut about proclaiming their right to Vulcan citizenship. Rather, they understand the desirability of balance and individualization, and work toward that perfection.

    Moreover, being an INTJ does not mean life afforded you access to a quality education. It does not mean you are immune to dyslexia. It does not mean you have all day to proof-read relatively unimportant social lists.

    True INTJs are–at core–more interested in the big picture than in the esoteric application of the semicolon. Substance, therefore, over grammar.

    I have no doubt that I am capable of committing all manner of errors. This, in spite of the fact that I took my undergraduate degree (English Honors) as a Board of Regents Fellow (the fellowship is given to the best student across all disciplines–one per university, per graduating class).

    While I think everyone should make an effort to write effectively, I find that proud grammar Nazis are merely petty, insecure jerks.

    True INTJs ought to have some facility for self-awareness, but I suppose those with sub-par intelligence could slip into such picayune, self-serving affectations.

    Looking for interesting people; found a bunch of boors. Helas.

  9. PS
    I feel much better after my rant. Obviously you are not all boors–but you know the type. INTJ doesn’t explain everything, and it doesn’t have to make you a jerk (even if you are misunderstood). Apologies for the collateral damage. :)

  10. …btw! I hate auto-correct and typing on an iPhone.

    Most INTJ’s can look past a few grammatical errors, but not plain idiotic errors. They also don’t like being told what to do, or how to do it. I find taking liberties with my spellings of words and certain grammar “embellishments” can prove quite appealing. Besides, shouldn’t we all be striving to be XXXX’s???

  11. I don’t know about you, but as an INTJ, I am very deliberate and have pretty poor fine motor skills- one of them being typing. Most of the mistakes you will find made by INTJs are typos- not total grammar mistakes like word misusage and sentence structure.

  12. Its cool to be one. Having read the way they test and seeing my result over and over, I realize that somethings are because of who I am and they aren’t mood swings that I needed work on. And when you a have a bunch of people like yourself talking about grammer, it is kinda fun. Why we must be good at grammer is kind of weird. We learn languages through different means and that implies different proficiencies. I don’t know much grammer but I read a lot of literature. Yet my friends who laboured through the grammer parts, are way below me. I say that the difference in approach is more subjective, even in INTJs. English isn’t my mother tongue so it’s good while my mother tongue might have a few errors here or there cause we tend to relax a bit on personal space so mother tongues go without serious work on. Yet language is subjective. I have a friend who isn’t an INTJ, but very good in 7 different languages. I leave it on personal approach, though personality is a big influence. And personally, as long as the message is efficiently delivered, just chill.

  13. After reading this thread, I’m pretty sure that INTJ’s best quality is creative mockery. High five! (said in Borat-like accent)

  14. I think we all need to take notice that we are having a debate about grammar. You may look at this in any way you want but we are having intelligent conversation regarding grammar that other would find insignificant! Go us!

  15. I read through this entire comments thread and found not one interesting comment. :/ well at least the English language is safe from improper use and exploitation. Team INTJ for the win?

  16. I’d want to join into all of these grammatical debates, but honestly I don’t care that much (about the debaters not the grammar).

  17. I’m a INTJ and I’m not the best at spelling. But my parents have made comments over my odd word choices. I once said “He took advantage of the space and decided to put it there on his own accord.” and my mom said that it was strange that I said that. Uó(n)òU

  18. Is it possible to be classified as INTJ and be strongly empathic at the same time? Or, are those two classifications nearly in opposition to each other?

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