Opinions vary on what types INTJs are most compatible with. Some people gravitate toward individuals with the same personality because they believe they connect with them better and others believe choosing a partner with opposite preferences will balance them. If you’re interested in other people’s experiences, the table below links to discussion threads on INTJ Forum about compatibility between INTJs and every other type.
| INTJs and the SJs (Guardians) | INTJs and the SP (Artists) |
| intj and esfj | intj and esfp |
| intj and estj | intj and estp |
| intj and istj | intj and isfp |
| intj and isfj | intj and istp |
| INTJs and the NFs (Idealists) | INTJs and the NT (Rationals) |
| intj and enfj | intj and entj |
| intj and enfp | intj and entp |
| intj and infj | intj and intj |
| intj and infp | intj and intp |
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I’ve noticed the INTJs on this site have slightly poorer grammatical acumen that I’d have expected. It’s clearly a product of the normal distribution, but let’s represent accordingly.
Scott
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LOL. Oh, the irony.
I too have noticed with chagrin the grammatical failings of this website. Based on the humble assertion that we (INTJs) are smart, shouldn’t the author of such a claim also know that when periods, exclamation points, etc. are within a quotation and at the end of a sentence, the period goes IN the quotation marks?
Example:
WRONG:
She told me that “she was smarter than everyone else”.
RIGHT:
She told me that “she was smarter than everyone else.”
BOOM.
Actually, your sentences with quotation marks are grammaticaly correct to US conventions. The period outside the quotes is conventional to the UK; however, I grew up in the Southeastern US and I learned the UK conventions. I do not put the period or punctuation inside of a quote when the quote is not a complete thought or a complete quote. I just wanted to clarify that your examples are not the only grammatical method. It’s a difference of color and colour.
I can’t say I agree. I’ve met quite a few INTJ personalities online, and with the exception of one, they’ve all had stellar grammar and spelling abilities. I constantly experience people saying they feel like I’m being excessively formal when communicating with them, but that’s just the result of my schooling and education. I can’t help but perform my interpersonal communication in the manner that I was taught.
Are you absolutely sure that the individuals that you’re basing your statement on are actually INTJs? Or are they instead people who really want to be an INTJ? I know several people who attempt to portray themselves as some personality, but are nothing of the sort.
Then I read your post more thoroughly and notice the “on this site”. My apologies for not reading your post with enough attention to detail. Carry on. ^^ (And yet I still reply with all of my previous statements intact, since just deleting it and moving on would be such a waste. Hahah)
“[. . .] the individuals on whom you’re basing your statement [. . .]” =P sorry, had to…
Speaking as an INTJ, your thoughts amuse me. You have mocked our “grammatical acumen” whilst making multiple trivial grammatical mistakes in your post.
i think ur stopid scott/ im a intj n i m gud at gramer
“i” should be capitalized, *you’re, *stupid, improper use of “/” — it should instead be a “:” *I’m, *an, *and, *am, *good, *grammar
Willard, that is a but of a hypocritical statement: you claim that you are “gud at gramer” when there are plenty of flaws in your comment. It would be wise for you to think before you post.
I am, by the way, also an INTJ
I hope you’re being sarcastic, Jo…
I’m pretty sure he was making a mockery of Scott…..a satirical-type thing. Most likely, it’s a joke intended to produce the reaction you exemplified, Jo. You fell into the INTJ trap.
Heehee. I love that intj wit.
Lol! If you were being funny, I got it!!!
Any ideas on what type of personality would be best to help mentor a INTJ other than another INTJ? And please provide a reason for your suggestion. Thanks.
I know that your comment is three months old, but I laughed. Being anal about grammatical accuracy is something I’ve generally had to suppress, especially online. But you’re right, and considering who we are, we SHOULD be keeping ourselves to a tougher standard.
Aw, HELL no! I object to social norms! Maybe a happy median? Like, “I quite enjoy deep discussions on quantum mechanics, daaawwwg.”
Hi Hoang – I like your question, it has serious implications and could help an INTJ in need. It got me thinking.
Most of my teachers over the years fell into the ‘I’m just doing my job’ category. But, the two or three who reached me did so in profound and memorable ways – ways that changed my path. Looking back, I have had an immediate and strong bond with what I think were ENTJs. We speak the same language. To be more precise, we think the same language. Perhaps more importantly, we respect the same ideals.
The small group I’m referring to were generally extroverted, very charismatic, intelligent and logical, open to wildly new ideas and had no time for the mundane or repetitive minutia of the day-to-day. In all cases, their extroverted nature and natural ability to lead and draw people to them made them easy to find and personally inspiring. (“Finally, someone who’s not boring! Someone who challenges me!”) My own strengths as an INTJ let me into their circles, even when there were major age and/or social differences.
They came from all walks of life:
A young painter, an accomplished art & music appreciation teacher, a homeless guy on a rock who wrote for Encyclopedia Britannica.
I’m an INTJ and english is my second language. Maybe my grammar isn’t perfect, but I’m trying to be better every day.
Scott you are right. INTJ’s are struggles to remember names as well as misspell the words. I am too INTJ.
I frankly don’t care about grammar, if you can interpret what i’m articulating, then, that is good enough for me, certainly proper grammar and being percise is important, but I expect that whom I am speaking to; to be able to interpret my mistakes and understand what I or whoever else is trying to say… because if you argue symantics with me, I question the level of intelligence of whom i’m debating/speaking with.
Yesssss……. The thing is, we can’t help our instant visual text judgement calls…….. It kinda does ruin my “pretty picture” when the grammar’s all mucked up, almost making it unread-worthy. But then again, I’m not just and INTJ: I’m totally OCD.
…and that error really bugs me now… go to your happy place, Dana, just breathe… “Om…” (I prefer the period INSIDE the q.m.’s.
I have recently learned I am an INTJ. It’s so beyond interesting to me how almost precisely I fit into this type of personality. I too can be emotionally detached, use logic and reason, can be anal about grammar, think I’m always right, have an extremely formal and professional way of communicating with people, have very little tolerance for stupidity, ignorance, and immaturity. However, because of my logic, I have learned to be less strict in these areas for the sake of not losing my mind and not being a hermit. I am struggling in finding the right career path for me. I am 27 working as a paralegal, my boss is an extreme micro manager and I am questioning whether the legal field is even for me. I majored in pre-law in college but don’t see the logic in going to law school if I won’t enjoy being an attorney. However, I could pass the LSAT and pass the bar, just because that is what I would set my mind to should I choose to do it. Having recently learned so much about my personality type, I am wanting to extensively which would research the best career choice for me based on my personality type. So I am looking for suggestions. Thanks all!
@Kell: I am an INTJ attorney. I loved law school; I had a blast taking the bar exam. I had great outcomes in my practice. However, the huge downside of law for INTJs is that, in most experiences, it’s a highly political, people-oriented activity. You may indeed be happier being the brains in the back room, while letting someone else deal with clients. Whether attorney or paralegal, make sure you are properly compensated.
As for the rash of childish hubris on this list:
Lolling about in the fantasy that you are brilliant just because you scored INTJ is (ironically) a tiresome emotional behavior. Indeed, there is no telling how many self-deluded chimpanzees score themselves as INTJ in the vain- glorious notion that it will prove they are brilliant.
A true INTJ is not satisfied with where they are now; they are not satisfied to strut about proclaiming their right to Vulcan citizenship. Rather, they understand the desirability of balance and individualization, and work toward that perfection.
Moreover, being an INTJ does not mean life afforded you access to a quality education. It does not mean you are immune to dyslexia. It does not mean you have all day to proof-read relatively unimportant social lists.
True INTJs are–at core–more interested in the big picture than in the esoteric application of the semicolon. Substance, therefore, over grammar.
I have no doubt that I am capable of committing all manner of errors. This, in spite of the fact that I took my undergraduate degree (English Honors) as a Board of Regents Fellow (the fellowship is given to the best student across all disciplines–one per university, per graduating class).
While I think everyone should make an effort to write effectively, I find that proud grammar Nazis are merely petty, insecure jerks.
True INTJs ought to have some facility for self-awareness, but I suppose those with sub-par intelligence could slip into such picayune, self-serving affectations.
Looking for interesting people; found a bunch of boors. Helas.
Not to mention the dangers of auto-correct: *individuation
PS
I feel much better after my rant. Obviously you are not all boors–but you know the type. INTJ doesn’t explain everything, and it doesn’t have to make you a jerk (even if you are misunderstood). Apologies for the collateral damage.
…btw! I hate auto-correct and typing on an iPhone.
Most INTJ’s can look past a few grammatical errors, but not plain idiotic errors. They also don’t like being told what to do, or how to do it. I find taking liberties with my spellings of words and certain grammar “embellishments” can prove quite appealing. Besides, shouldn’t we all be striving to be XXXX’s???
…I know that’s just MY logical conclusion… But it’s the right one, of course.